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I am recently divorced two daughters, 4 yrs 8 yrs of age. My 8 yr. old has progressively become afraid to go her far. She had been spending night once every or week, now gets upset cries she doesn't want to leave me, even if it's a couple hs. I can rule out physical abuse, though I cannot rule out emotional abuse, as I witnessed it in my marriage to him. biggest problem is do wher to make her go spend night, or time him? I do not want to make worse. We scheduled to get counseling next week. I don't want to ce her to go if it will affect her adversely in long run. She appears to basically panic n start crying she can't go. Do advise rapy limited time her far, or should we expect her to "fall in" her time to be spent him, also continue rapy? I just want to do 's best her.

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I hate to give you a vague answer, but it really is so situational that the best thing you and your ex can do is meet with a therapist who is experienced in such matters to discuss the situation. I have seen it go both ways depending on the situation. That is why it is impossible to give advice without a full evaluation. You and he will have to sort out many such matters over the years and it would be good to start out on a mutual problem solving basis for the good of the children.