Asperger's Syndrome

[MamaBear]

I have been married for 4 years. I have spent the better part of the past 3 years trying to get "mental help" for my husband. It seems as though every time I tell people what life is like living with him they think my claims are outrageous and impossible. My husband joined the military shortly after we were married and we have moved around a lot since then. Every time we come close to figuring out what is going on with him we have to move on and start over. I recently spent several hours with a nurse who has an adult son with AS. The similarities between him and my husband are incredible. I have spent countless hours researching and I am 100% convinced that this is it!

I am having a problem getting him evaluated. He just recently got back from his first deployment. He came home to a new home in a new state and 2 new babies. The change was a HUGE shock for him!!!!! His symptoms always get worse when we move but this time it was too much for him. It was too much for me to handle him on my own. I was concerned for his safety as well as the safety of our 2 kids. I asked his command to allow him to live at the barracks until we can figure out what is wrong and how to help him. Since then he has not been allowed to contact me and I have not been allowed to contact him while he is being evaluated by military doctors.

It was after that happened that I found out about Asperger's Syndrome. I need some kind of solid evidence that this may really be the problem in order to get the military doctors to listen to me. I'm not sure how to get the "solid evidence" without being able to contact him. Does anyone know if there is anything physically different about a person who has Asperger's Syndrome? Is there anything specific I can use to get the doctors to take me seriously?