Autism

[Babyjoe08]

Alright my boyfriends daughter, i have been around in her life since she was about 5 months old. She always did things that were wierd but i never took in that there could be a problem, The things she did at a very young age that my son now being 5 and half months old does not do. Ari (daughter) would stare off and just go in her own little world no mater how many times or how hard you would try to get her attention she wouldnt even flinch. We could clap our hands right in her face and nothing. And then when she started to crawl she would be on the bed with us and then out of no were launch her self from the bed and hit the floor but as a normal child would, would cry she never did she laughed and would continue to do it, she has thrown her self out of the crib and laughed, ok i thought it was normal and that she was learning what she could do with her legs. i blew it off again, it seemed as if she had no fear of anything when it came to harming her self, then she started walking and i thought it was odd but noticed her mother did the same thing, walked on her tippy toes and ran on her tippy toes, i didnt think anything of it. i thought that was normal, then came her fears that i had no idea were they came from, no matter how many times i tired to show ari that the vacuum was a piece of plastic that mad a loud noise, she still wouldnt touch it wouldnt go near it and and if she saw it she ran in the other direction and if i turned it on she would scream and run around in circles. Then came the talking, but it wasnt talk she is two and a half and only repeats what people say, the longest sentence i have ever heard out of her was two words at a time, but my niece is only 1 year and 9 months and she speaks full sentences she points at thing says her abc's ad says colors but ari does none of the above, if someone is leaving she doesnt say anything untill someone says to say bye bye then she will say bye bye, she wont speak unless some one says something and then she will repeat anything any one says, now i thought this was odd and told my boyfriend to get her set up with speech classes to help her, but everyone blew me off and ari off and said she was fine, then came the tentrum tantrums, i have never ever seen a child do this, if she got mad she would bite her self, dig, her self, pull her hair out and bang her head off the floor, she also did this to others, to were it was getting so bad we had to hold her down untill she would stop and this could last about half an hour, she has came up and slapped people kicked people, she has even tried pulling my earings out of my ears because she was mad at me about something. And then when i would watch ari if her mother left or her father left she would scream mommy or daddy over and over and over again while crying like she was dying or something and this would last untill they came back, she refuses to be potty trained and she is 2 and a half, she doesnt play with toys like other children would, she either brakes them or is just interested with one part on the toy, she does not what so ever play well with other children her age, she is always trying to hurt them. But i found out that ari's mother's sister was diagnosed with bipolar and scizafrania, and some social skills and then i found out ari's mother's father was also diagnosed with psycological problems, and ari's mother also show signs of some things like bipolar and socail skills, im really worried something is going on here but no one will get this little girl help, if she doesnt get help could this get worse, and is ari showing signs of some kind of autism

[A_Bacon]

I am not a Doctor but it really sounds like autism. My husband has a son that has been diagnosed recently with severe autism and he is now 5. The whole family hates me because I kept pushing the issue that something was wrong with him. He only jibber jabbers, he really can't make out a word. As for potty training...it depends on his mood. Sometimes he will use the restroom and other times he just goes in his pants until someone picks up on the smell. He stares at the lighty and ceiling for hours at a time. He does this spastic movement all the time with his arms and makes this face as if he ate something sour. He runs on his toes....I have known him since he was 2. I am not a familiar person to him but I also do not enable him. So...along with the family he hates me too. Ofcourse when he has not had a bowl movement in 5-7 days I am the only one willing to give him an enema to help relieve him. His mother on the other hand has just recently accepted the fact of his disease and in the past has dumped him off on everyone...voluntarily deployed to Iraq several times to where we had no choice but to keep him months on end. The grandparents just recently said they can no longer watch him when she deploys and unfortunately his father the one paying child support travels a lot due to his job and does not have custody. It has gotten worse since he has gotten older, he is more violent and appears to have no emotion. His dad is gone about 80% of the year and I have made it clear that I will not be responsible for this child because of his most recent behavior....But what you should know is they have a safe person, this is the person that they actually show emotion to. I just don't get it. Ari to me sounds every bit like my step son....It is so hard. You can push the issue for her to be tested but this is the best thing to do...Get the pediatrician to refer you to a child physiologist (diagnostician). Until she is school age you really can't do anything else. The schools do tests also but like I said this is all you can really do until she is school age. This is really hard on families so I wish you the best..By the way although he is 5 years old his mentality and behavior to me is of maybe a 2 year old. He was diagnosed in May this year when he attended a public school on the last 30 days of the school year.