Depression

[Guest]

Lately my husband has been so moody and cranky. He has always been a bit moody but lately it is getting worse. He is so negative about everything and everybody. I am almost afraid to tell him anything for fear it will set him off and he will say hurtful things. He doesn't seem to have a nice thing to say about anything or anybody. What kind of doctor should I search out and how do I tell my husband I think he has a problem without having him fly off the handle.? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I do love my husband but can not live like this. He has chased away all our friends and is now allienating the family.

[hyde66]

I think your husband should see a psychiatrist (not psychologist). It sounds like he needs to be evaluated for bipolar. Mood swings are a big symptom of bipolar. It's a difficult subject to bring up with your husband, but try to turn it into a positive.

[marinahallam]

Haya,

My name is marina, I have a similar problem to yours, only I suppose my issue is a bit more complicated as my husbands complicated personality has affected me already couple of years ago, and I am fighting Generalised Anxiety disorder now, after my breakdown. But the thing is even after all that my husband is still the same and and I would say even worse...I would have left him already if not only our 2 kids. He would destroy everything if I deside to walk away...I am scared so much...I am in abit of relapse now even though I was free from relapses for 3 months. I run out of tablets 3 weeks ago and I though I might not need them ever again....but only now I feel I should still take them, as I am too fragile to take all the sh+++t from him, and pretend like nothing happened.
I am very dissapointed in marriage as it is, because i dont really see a way out....

[Lindis]

I think you should first find a place where you would feel comfortable talking to him about this, your home may not be that place. Second, when you approach him about the issue, don't go straight to the point since this may only make him defensive. You could start by asking him how he feels, and point out that he's seemed not his usual self lately. See if questions like that will make him open up, if not, you should just point out the facts to him, because if he doesn't know how you feel, nothing can't really be done about the situation. Even if you love him, you are not going to be able to continue being in a relationship with him, unless you are prepared to put your happiness aside for as long as he decides to remain the way he is right now.

Just try to find out the reason for his extra grumpiness; is is work related, health, your relationship, kids, family, and so on.
Good luck and don't hesitate to ask for more advice